This blog’s title comes from something I learned in a pre-natal yoga class: a balanced body is not static, but requires constant movement of bones, muscles, and tendons. It’s been a useful lesson for me in how I approach the many demands of life. There is no one perfect schedule, time management method, or parenting philosophy that, once found, will produce an ideal work-life balance that eliminates stress from my life. Rather, by approaching these demands with flexibility and the expectation of continuous, responsive movement, I can determine what is most important on a case-by-case basis.
As wife and mother of two, working my way through the dissertation-writing process in pursuit of a PhD in Rhetoric and Composition (Women’s & Gender Studies is my secondary area), I have lots of opportunities for exercising flexibility and continuous movement. Some days reading to my children is most important. On other days it may be grading my students’ papers. At other times, it might mean foregoing sleep in order to work on my dissertation. Maybe some days I can even squeeze in a trip to the gym or a walk around the block.
I’ve recently been thinking about Steven Covey’s popular four quadrants as a (not perfect, but useful) way to prioritize my daily schedule. According to this approach, the trick to managing our time well is to distinguish between the urgent and the important, spending less time on the non-urgent, not important category in order to spend more time on the non-urgent, important category–those essential, long-term projects that are often neglected until it’s too late to do them justice.
This blog’s primary purpose is to document a non-urgent, important area: tracking the important and mundane moments of family life.